Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Sad news.....

Just recently a couple that we knew here on Okinawa split. They were high school sweethearts, married for about 11 years, with a two year old son. I had to write this blog because the news both saddened me and made me so thankful for my life. Sure it hasn't effected me nearly as much as it has them or their close family and friends, but it has made me think a lot. This time last year we were all hanging out. They were at our house for both Christmas Eve and Christmas day. Everything seemed so good between them. Sure I know the details of why the split somewhat, but that's not for me to be spreading all over the Internet. Nor am I going to mention their names. I am writing this for another reason. I am writing it because I feel sad for them. Maybe they are happier now, I am not sure, but I do know that it has to be terrible losing the person you have shared your life with so long. Another thing that upsets me is how hard it is on their son. He was at my house just a few weeks ago playing with Maddy. My neighbor asked him to go find Maddy (like they were playing hide and seek) but he misunderstood her and thought she said daddy. He began looking all over my house saying, "Daddy, daddy, where's daddy?" She told him that his daddy was at grandma's house that she was saying Maddy. It was so sad because he went over to my Christmas tree, bowed his little head, and started sniffling saying, "Daddy", it broke my heart. I know that sometimes couples don't work out but it stinks that the kids have to suffer because of it. I know first hand how it feel for your daddy to not be around anymore. Not that I believe you should stay with someone only for your kids, because that makes for more problems. The whole thing just broke my heart. I can't tell you the countless times I have lost sleep over it. I don't know why I let it get me so down. I guess it's because I have never known a couple to split that I was good friends with, after high school anyway. But overall it has made me so thankful for my life. Things with my husband and me are at an all time high and I couldn't be happier about that. I hope and pray that he and I will be one of the couples that make it. That our children will grow up in a home with two loving parents. Both Nick and I are children of divorce so it would be nice for our children to not have to deal with that. God willing.

1 comment:

Sandi McBride said...

You know, marriage is like anything worth enjoying, it has to be worked and kneaded like dough, set to rise like bread, enjoyed like croissants...39 years of marriage and Uncle Wally and I are friends...we enjoy each other's company and the love is stronger than ever. Being that you and Nicolas are children of divorce, it will make you knead that bread all the more!!!
love ya
Aunt Sandi